Saturday, May 3, 2014

When You Lose Your Wallet

I have had to replace the contents of my wallet. It went missing just before Easter. 

Now I have to tell you about that wallet. It was bright pink and officially in April it was the 14th anniversary present to me from my husband whose personal shopper (Carol) picked it out for a certain Carol married to my husband. 

Now I am thinking those what if questions:

What if that wallet fell out of my floppy purse I am now using?
What if I had not changed purses where it was safer in the old one?
What if someone uses the contents of that wallet for identity theft? 
What if my husband hid that wallet?  

I have read where Alzheimer's patients do hide things, although I have not seen my husband do that to date; however, he is going downhill and I will write about that decline in the next blog post most likely. 

Instead of panic, I thought of being calm.  
Losing my wallet, with all that valuable items in it,
 is not the end of the world. 

About the time I lost my wallet, I read this Scripture:

If I say, “My foot slips,”
Your mercy, O LORD, will hold me up.
In the multitude of my anxieties within me,
Your comforts delight my soul.
Psalm 94:18-19

Then my special Internet friend Georgene 
who writes a blog HERE sent me this verse:  

Who can speak and have it happen 
if the Lord has not decreed it? 
Is it not from the mouth of the Most High 
that both calamities and good things come?           
Lamentations 3:37-38

Just as the LORD allowed Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia into our marriage in 2008, He has allowed my wallet to go missing and also some pretty amazing mercies. No one charged anything. I checked. With my missing Social Security card and driver's license, someone would be able in 2015 to get a tax refund off of us! Our refund has already come and been spent! I didn't panic, but just kept at replacing items and experiencing wonderful surprises. 

Two women named "Lisa" who work in Plant City.  Lisa at Bank of America helped me get immediate cash for gas and groceries and beyond that think through my credit cards and how I can pay them off quicker with help from Bank of America which I am doing. I met Lisa who processed my new driver's license, which I needed before I could get a new Bank of America debit card. Both Lisa's took pretty pictures of me for the driver's license and for the debit card. Why I even look younger than my last driver's license eight ears ago and I do not have to get it renewed in June when my 70th b. d. is next month. I found out in Florida you can renew up to eighteen months before it expires.  My new driver's license has eyebrows and is good until 2022! See HERE for that story of how I got tattooed eyebrows which saves me so much time. 

I met Paula of Plant City's Suncoast Federal Credit Union (for teachers). She helped me refinance our car just purchased a few months ago for a lower interest rate and shorter payments. See HERE for that story of my unexpected car payment and the story of how I also put my leg through the garage ceiling.   

I met Dee Dee of Plant City's Regions Bank where we have a second mortgage and a credit card. She helped me get $2500 for the refinance at Suncoast. (More is owed than the blue book values on that car, and so I had to kick in more money.) She also gave me a great packet for protecting identity theft with awesome information such as this link:

I printed out page five of this application to bring to the closest Social Security office. It is basically open Monday to Friday from 9 AM to 3 PM (it closes at noon on Wednesday). This week I will have worked six days after I teach this afternoon. For the next four weeks I am taking one weekday a week off, however, so I will be getting that new Social Security card next week and meeting someone else to help me with my journey to replace the contents of my wallet.  This time, however, I will keep that Social Security card and other items in our home safe where I also have Durable Power of Attorney and Health Care Surrogate documents for my husband. 

Hard for me to replace has been my State Farm insurance card. Every month I put aside money for  this payment. Somehow I don't have their number in my cell phone and can't find the policy. We pay them every six months automatically through Bank of America. Suncoast would like that information to add to my car payments, but it is hard to come by now until the June bill comes. By the way, State Farm was wonderful when we were hit by a DUI driver three years ago. See HERE

Speaking of cell phones, I am glad that if I lose mine the data in my iPhone is all on my iMac computer, as are the songs and podcasts still on my iMac should I lose my iPod. Putting those wonderful ladies in my iPhone, along with other numbers I have had to use. 

When you don't have much spare time, losing a wallet can be a bummer. However, I have met wonderful Plant City business women (Lisa, Lisa, Paula and Dee Dee) and thanked them and even rapped* for them. I brought a smile to these ladies when I did so and each of them helped me keep calm and brought a smile to me. 

*Yes, at almost 70 years of age, I rap!  Amusing to me as well.  See MC AC The Rap Lady on YouTube at the top of this page or copyrighted lyrics for "Carol's raps" in the label section at the right of this blog. 


  1. I just sent a comment and I didn't get that "your comment will be visible after approval" message. I wonder if it went through.


    1. I am trying to understand changing to a new browser. That might be the problem.

  2. Sorry you had to go through that, but I'm glad you met some wonderful women to help you. You have such a wonderful outlook!

    1. Thank you, Rena. The LORD be praised for giving me strength.

  3. I'll try to remember what I said, LOL. I did like how you turned what could have been a bad experience into a good one with your attitude about it as well as having the chance to meet the women you did along the way who helped you get things you needed to get your "identity" back. I wonder if you call State Farm if they can find your policy number?

    I had heard that people with dementia do hide things; hubby's mom had dementia that came with Parkinson's disease and she was always hiding things. We had to look through everything here, books, magazines, etc., before we could get rid of them to make sure she didn't hide anything in them.

    let's see if this comment takes :)


    1. Glad this comment took.

      I did call State Farm, but each is independent and I am not sure what office it is in this area. The six month bill will come for June payment and then I will know, if not before.

  4. Isn't it amazing how much trouble just one lost wallet can cause? :( I'm so sorry that this has been added to your already full days. Your perspective is biblical and you are trusting the Lord. Praise God for His grace!

    1. Praise the LORD, indeed. Taking things in stride is a good motto for a caregiver, but some days I want to cry "not one more problem"!

      I so much appreciate people like you who follow this blog and pray for us. We are going into a season of more Alzheimer's challenges. Meanwhile our volunteer caregiver, Kenny, is gone for three weeks.

      A young man from church is helping me out on Tuesday get around when our car has a recall and needs to go to a dealer for that.