We all lose items from time to time. Now when you don't have short-term memory you can't remember where you last used that item. I have left items places where I have taught and can trace that item and recover it at that school.
- speak one sentence at a time so what you are saying does not confuse the loved one with Alzheimer's
- spend money such as getting new keys. I also got my husband four new ties several days ago that have the zipper on them so they are easier for him to put on.
- answer without arguing. I read to never argue with an Alzheimer's loved one. He is right in his mind and his mind is often in a precarious position.
- enjoy without complaint. DH has a great sense of humor and I do enjoy that about him.
- trust without wavering. It is important that he trusts me also.
- forgive without punishing. To punish would be to penny pinch and say no to a new set of keys.
- promise without forgetting. Someone in the house has to remember. I have changed the terms at the top of this blog from caring and caregiver to loving and lovegiver.
So instead of new responsibilities as a caregiver, I really give love. I have those new responsibilities as my husband's helpmeet, and I love him and can show it. This is a huge paradign shift if you think about it. Dolores and Karen also picked up on this notion with their comments on Shriver's book review below. Maybe we are on to something here, gals.